About Lesley
I’m a counsellor, coach and hypnotherapist, and I help women who are struggling with what being single has made them believe about themselves.
Because I know that territory personally.
Online across the UK | In person in Manchester
My story
For most of my life, being single felt like something was wrong with me.
I was ashamed of it. I dreaded people asking about my love life and felt lonely, left out and somehow different from everyone else.
When I did get into relationships, I was so relieved to finally feel chosen and part of something that I became terrified of losing it. I lost trust in myself, became clingy and insecure, and often focused more on being wanted than on whether the relationship was actually right for me.
At one point, I spent 12 years single. I told myself I was taking time to work on myself, hoping that having a break would somehow ‘reset’ me. But I was also spending that time trying to change things on the outside.
When I eventually got into another relationship, the same patterns just came flooding back.
That was my turning point.
I realised I needed to stop trying to change the outside and start working from the inside out. I began changing the way I spoke to myself, building self-respect, learning boundaries and understanding what I had come to believe about myself.
I had learned how to love myself.
And slowly, everything changed.
I still want love. I still feel things deeply. But I no longer believe being single means there’s something wrong with me.
I trust myself now. I know what is right for me. I can walk away without feeling rejected or blaming myself.
That’s why I do this work.
Because I know what it’s like to look fine on the outside while quietly believing you’re not good enough underneath.
And I know that when you change the relationship you have with yourself, you can change the way you experience everything else.
Working from the inside out
The work I do now is about looking underneath the surface.
Not just at what you're doing, but at what you believe about yourself, how you speak to yourself, what you tolerate, where you've lost trust in yourself and the patterns that keep you stuck.
Because sometimes the thing we most want to change on the outside isn't where the real change needs to begin.
You don't need to become a different person.
You need to understand yourself differently.
That's where self-worth, self-respect, self-trust and healthier boundaries can begin to grow.
And, ultimately, where you can start building a more loving relationship with yourself.
Why I do this work
It is my mission to help women move towards loving themselves.
Not because I think you should stop wanting a relationship.
Not because I think you should just learn to love being single.
And not because I think there’s something wrong with you that needs fixing.
I believe you can want love and still know that you are enough without it.
You can care deeply and still have boundaries.
You can feel disappointed, rejected or lonely without turning those feelings into a story about your worth.
And you can build a relationship with yourself that feels safe, respectful and loving, whatever is happening around you.
That, to me, is true freedom.
How I work
I offer counselling, coaching and hypnotherapy, but you don't need to work out which one you need before you come to me.
We can look at where you are, what you want to change and what’s getting in the way, and decide together what approach will support you best.
The focus is always you.
Your self-worth.
Your self-trust.
Your self-respect.
Your relationship with yourself
And ultimately, your freedom to be yourself without constantly questioning whether you're good enough.
A little more about me
Alongside my professional work, I’m a mum, a dog mum and a cat mum, and I’ve created a much calmer life for myself than I once imagined.
My own journey has also shaped the way I work. Spirituality, self-compassion and the idea that change happens from the inside out have all become important parts of my understanding of ourselves and our behaviour.
Professionally, I trained in Integrative Therapeutic Counselling and Relationship Counselling, and I’m also trained in Solution Focused Brief Therapy, Spiritual Coaching, NLP and Hypnotherapy.
I bring all of this together depending on what you need.
Qualifications and training
Diploma in Integrative Therapeutic Counselling.
Certificate in Relationship Counselling.
Solution Focused Brief Therapy trained (SFBT).
Certificate in Spiritual Coaching.
NLP Practitioner.
Diploma in Hypnotherapy.
No pressure. No commitment. Just a simple conversation.